The couple have been serving goals for a while despite people in the beginning doubting if the relationship would last this “long”. In the final episode of the first season of Deep Dive podcasts by Vanessa Mdee, they both shared their experiences while growing up talking about their insecurities and all. Vanessa Mdee revealing that her physical appearance and short height made her feel inferior among the rest.
She revealed, “I did not see myself in a great regard. My trauma comes from being teased as a child. So when I thought about my opinions, I did not speak as I grew older, I would overcompensate by being loud and the life of the party and have the final say.”
Despite having announced to quit music to focus on her love life and building herself, the award winning artist had to shift her confidence to music which she claims to have been her savior. “What saved me is the fact that I knew I was very talented and I was ahead of time with the music I put out. I recognised I was comparing my work’s reception to everyone else,” she said.
Rotimi on the other hand, talked about growing up in a Nigerian household and how his father would never let them have an opinion, a trait that is inhibited by most African fathers.
He explained, ” and it is not abuse, it is parenting. If you are not careful you can grow up feeling like your opinion has no weight and everyone around you, their answers are the right ones so you start feeling inferior about yourself not knowing where it comes from.” Noting that at the age of 17, his mum encouraged him by making him feel he was making sense with his opinions.
But my dad being a strong African man made sure he was the man of the house so his word was the final word and nothing else mattered. I started breaking away from saying that my decisions are smart, I’m pretty wise.